Story that touched my heart. Lengthy but really hit straight into my heart .
4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.
There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!
Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.
However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.
A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say,
'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the
reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son
has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, 'I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy. My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to
the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing
what to do, what to say.....
I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.
And one of the letters broke my heart....
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit
me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing
you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But
Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?
After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are
totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first. With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing
matters more than your well being.
Friday, 30 October 2009
Thursday, 29 October 2009
29th Oct Video highlights
Puzzles are interesting tools to teach the kids on matching and hand coordination. Ryann has got different type of puzzles- puzzle books or animals, big and small. This is his latest addition and Hubby was the one who taught him how. I have to say thumbs up, hubby. Seeing both of you enjoying while learning is so rewarding. Good job to Ryann for being able to match and spell those words.
28th Oct Fun yet tiring time with Ryann
Today I am on half day, so had our day planned to visit the new mall - City Square Mall at Farrer Park MRT station. Do look out for Amore Living at City Square soon.
When Hubby went to fetch him from Mum's place, he casually told Ryann that they are going out soon to fetch me. This was what happened.
Hubby: We are going out to fetch ma ma from work.
Ryann: Where Ma Ma?
Hubby: Ma Ma is in her office at bugis now.
Ryann: Bugi (he meant bugis I guess)
After walking around farrer park area and Mustafa centre, we took a bus to balestier to meet my father in law and sister in law for dinner and some shopping on lights as they are shifting soon.
When Hubby went to fetch him from Mum's place, he casually told Ryann that they are going out soon to fetch me. This was what happened.
Hubby: We are going out to fetch ma ma from work.
Ryann: Where Ma Ma?
Hubby: Ma Ma is in her office at bugis now.
Ryann: Bugi (he meant bugis I guess)
After walking around farrer park area and Mustafa centre, we took a bus to balestier to meet my father in law and sister in law for dinner and some shopping on lights as they are shifting soon.
On the bus towards balestier area. 
Showing his grouchy face as we didn’t allow him to move about on the moving bus.
Happy to be entertained by the camera. He just loves seeing himself on screen.
His rabbit tooth.
At one furniture shop, he just casually sat down on the mini chair.
Resisting to come down and run. He is uncontrollable when he is in the shop. When Hubby went to get some drinks, he started asking:” Where Pa Pa", when I left to the toilet, he asked:” Where Ma Ma". So adorable. I am feeling happy that he is finally talking slightly.
Went back to the condo, he cant resist the swimming pool. I bet he will enjoy next time.
It was a tiring day for Ryann and after showering him, I wanted to dry him with his towel and he suddenly utter his first mandarin word:"快 点 " meaning faster. (we have always been chasing him to be faster thus I guess he picked up from there. Got to be really careful with our words now.)
Ryann has managed to learn how to spell some new words apart from STOP. Now he knows how to spell DOG,CAT and COW (his W doesnt sound quite right still) Hopefully can get the video edited to share soon.
Wednesday, 28 October 2009
26th Oct Departure Time
I left for work this morning and hubby left home together with me so that he can send Ryann over to mum's place. Usually if I say bye bye to Ryann, he will always make noise or will run towards me wanting to tag along. Thus this morning I decided to make a silent departure. I turned left and Hubby turned right. Was thinking hopefully he will not realize and will just forget about it.
Little did I know, after I left, Ryann was turning back and he couldn't find me. He called: "Ma ma" and according to Hubby, he looked like he was about to cry.
I felt so touched and yet so painful. Touched that he remembered me. Painful that I cant have more time to be with him.
I prayed to God that I would receive wisdom that a mother needs and would be able to give as much time, love and attention to Ryann.
Daddy God, maybe you can start with a 5 working days kind of career with better salary. *wink =p
Little did I know, after I left, Ryann was turning back and he couldn't find me. He called: "Ma ma" and according to Hubby, he looked like he was about to cry.
I felt so touched and yet so painful. Touched that he remembered me. Painful that I cant have more time to be with him.
I prayed to God that I would receive wisdom that a mother needs and would be able to give as much time, love and attention to Ryann.
Daddy God, maybe you can start with a 5 working days kind of career with better salary. *wink =p
Sunday, 25 October 2009
25th Oct Food delight for Ryann
I was having fried kway teow last night but i forgotten to inform the stall owner to cook mine non-spicy. Luckily it wasn't that bad but still for some one who doesn’t take chili at all, i can still feel the spice.
As i was enjoying my delicious kway teow, Ryann shown interest with my food and i thought maybe i would get some funny expressions from him since it was a bit spicy. But i was wrong. Ryann loved the kway teow and repeatedly came asking for it. First mouth can see his face change. I thought he said hot hot but i wasn't really sure. Then he kept coming back to me, looking at my kway teow. That was Ryann's first encounter with chili and fried Kway teow.
This morning we had breakfast at coffee shop. As usual we order 'Pau' for him and i order carrot cake. I tried to feed him with carrot cake and again he shown much interest with it. So i asked:"Ryann, do you want to eat pau or carrot cake?" Ryann shouted:"Cake!" So funny. My little boy is getting adventurous with food.
Anyway, some snap shot of Ryann. Enjoy.
He was happy to see himself on the LCD screen of my G11.
His favourite past time at mum's place- count the number of clothes on the bamboo. He will count the number of pegs too.
Ryann's art work today. Rasins and margarine by him the rest by Mummy.
Playing with Auntie Ivy.
He simply love the slides. First time playing with slides.
He refuse to leave the play area ... oh my...
He ran towards the barney 'car' and refuse to leave too.
Happy Ryann.
As i was enjoying my delicious kway teow, Ryann shown interest with my food and i thought maybe i would get some funny expressions from him since it was a bit spicy. But i was wrong. Ryann loved the kway teow and repeatedly came asking for it. First mouth can see his face change. I thought he said hot hot but i wasn't really sure. Then he kept coming back to me, looking at my kway teow. That was Ryann's first encounter with chili and fried Kway teow.
This morning we had breakfast at coffee shop. As usual we order 'Pau' for him and i order carrot cake. I tried to feed him with carrot cake and again he shown much interest with it. So i asked:"Ryann, do you want to eat pau or carrot cake?" Ryann shouted:"Cake!" So funny. My little boy is getting adventurous with food.
Anyway, some snap shot of Ryann. Enjoy.
He was happy to see himself on the LCD screen of my G11.
His favourite past time at mum's place- count the number of clothes on the bamboo. He will count the number of pegs too.
Ryann's art work today. Rasins and margarine by him the rest by Mummy.
Playing with Auntie Ivy.
He simply love the slides. First time playing with slides.
He refuse to leave the play area ... oh my...
He ran towards the barney 'car' and refuse to leave too.
Happy Ryann.Thursday, 22 October 2009
21st Oct Thoughts of the week
Today we had our monthly staff birthday celebration and as usual Jasmine (COO and founder of Amore Fitness) shared with us some thoughts, which I felt like a new revelation in my heart.
It’s about forgiveness.
How easy said then done? How many of us can really forgive and forget? There was a saying:"You will only receive happiness when happenings happen to happen the way you want it to happen." Then what about happenings that do not happen the way you want it to happen? If it involves human relationship, many times we will get angry or hold grudges against that person.
Example: Your husband is snoring very loudly and disturbing your sleep. You toss around the bed for hours but you just cant get to sleep because he is just too loud. At this situation, look at your husband, he is sleeping soundly and enjoying his rest. But whom is the one suffering?
I came to realize that when u get angry with someone or when you cant forgive someone, you actually put yourself into the bondage. They might not even know or worse still, they might not care if you are angry or not. So who is at the losing end? But again it takes more energy, effort, courage and strength to forgive then to strive for peace and harmony.
As what was shared during CG, you set others free to set yourself free.
This is extremely helpful to me as I was recently challenged with some office politics, which I really hate most. It is painful as it came unexpectedly from some one whom I trusted. This incident at work got me really angry and I was badly affected. God is good all the time as he used 3 different situations to remind me about this theory so as to set myself free. This was also one revelation I received from the TVB serial drama.
Today, seeing that person again during meeting, I felt no pain, no hard feelings and no anger as I have truly set myself free.
Hope this little revelation of mine can help to set more people free.
P/S: Ryann is showing his terrible twos signs... when i scolded him for not taking off his shoes at home before playing, he crossed his arms and even turn his face away from me with sound effect "hmp" some more....
It’s about forgiveness.
How easy said then done? How many of us can really forgive and forget? There was a saying:"You will only receive happiness when happenings happen to happen the way you want it to happen." Then what about happenings that do not happen the way you want it to happen? If it involves human relationship, many times we will get angry or hold grudges against that person.
Example: Your husband is snoring very loudly and disturbing your sleep. You toss around the bed for hours but you just cant get to sleep because he is just too loud. At this situation, look at your husband, he is sleeping soundly and enjoying his rest. But whom is the one suffering?
I came to realize that when u get angry with someone or when you cant forgive someone, you actually put yourself into the bondage. They might not even know or worse still, they might not care if you are angry or not. So who is at the losing end? But again it takes more energy, effort, courage and strength to forgive then to strive for peace and harmony.
As what was shared during CG, you set others free to set yourself free.
This is extremely helpful to me as I was recently challenged with some office politics, which I really hate most. It is painful as it came unexpectedly from some one whom I trusted. This incident at work got me really angry and I was badly affected. God is good all the time as he used 3 different situations to remind me about this theory so as to set myself free. This was also one revelation I received from the TVB serial drama.
Today, seeing that person again during meeting, I felt no pain, no hard feelings and no anger as I have truly set myself free.
Hope this little revelation of mine can help to set more people free.
P/S: Ryann is showing his terrible twos signs... when i scolded him for not taking off his shoes at home before playing, he crossed his arms and even turn his face away from me with sound effect "hmp" some more....
Tuesday, 20 October 2009
20th Oct Photos finally
Finally i have got the pictures up from the new camera. =p. Still trying to learn how to use the functions. Other then time, I haven't been blogging because i have been chasing after this hongkong show 溏心风暴2:家好月圆. This show gave me quite a bit of insight thoughts and i will share more in my next post. I will highly recommend this show to every one. Enjoy the pictures everyone. =D (The pictures have been resized to speed up loading time thus not full resolution.)
I love this picture of Ryann. Great smile and eye contact. It is almost impossible to get Ryann to look at the camera. He is camera shy like hubby. =p
Ryann was hoping we would open the box of thomas train set for him. 
Reading with his cousin Luo Xian
Where is the elephant?
I love this picture of Ryann. Great smile and eye contact. It is almost impossible to get Ryann to look at the camera. He is camera shy like hubby. =p
I loved this candid shot too... great lighting... with his favourite smelly pillow.
Ryann was hoping we would open the box of thomas train set for him. 
Reading with his cousin Luo Xian
Where is the elephant?
" I am tired" Let me rest for a while."
Ryann's pants was too tight for him after dinner at grandpa's place so i decided to let him walk around the house without his pants. Weather is so hot anyway. *Watching Tv
Ryann loves playing with curtains.
It is so hot that Ryann refuse to wear his t-shirt.
Happy Ryann playing with his pet sound book. In love with his smile.
Monday, 12 October 2009
11 Oct More pictures coming up
I have brought my camera finally - G11. So you would be expecting more pictures but that will be until i know how to load and save in my comp. still trying to figure out how to use the camera.
Hospital trips
Big granny is now at Tan Tock Seng Hospital and at the same time, i heard bad news that Auntie's cancer had relapsed and she found 9 tumors around her neck region. This got me quite emotional as Flora just left us not long ago. First it was Molly then it was Shin and lastly was Flora. Now listening to news like that make me feel very emotional. Please help to pray for her healing and also for her to stay positive.
GUG class
Today is the last lesson for Term 5 in GUG. Many of Ryann's classmates are going to other classes. I guess only Kieren and another 2 more staying. I have also decided to draw Ryann out after Term 6 so that next year he can join me for service or go to Rock Kids. Hopefully by then his communication skills will improve.
Tomorrow will load more pictures up.
Thoughts of the day
Today Brother in law casually advice me that we are not spending enough time and not enough talking with Ryann. Honestly speaking, with Hubby's work schedule it is really true. With my recent hectic schedule it seems extremely hard to come back on time. Although i am putting my 100% trust on God for his speech, sometimes i really hope i can spend more time with Ryann. I do not want to waste Ryann's precious first 3 years. By next year when i start my studies, it is going to be worse. Really need to work something out. God, give me the wisdom!
Hospital trips
Big granny is now at Tan Tock Seng Hospital and at the same time, i heard bad news that Auntie's cancer had relapsed and she found 9 tumors around her neck region. This got me quite emotional as Flora just left us not long ago. First it was Molly then it was Shin and lastly was Flora. Now listening to news like that make me feel very emotional. Please help to pray for her healing and also for her to stay positive.
GUG class
Today is the last lesson for Term 5 in GUG. Many of Ryann's classmates are going to other classes. I guess only Kieren and another 2 more staying. I have also decided to draw Ryann out after Term 6 so that next year he can join me for service or go to Rock Kids. Hopefully by then his communication skills will improve.
Tomorrow will load more pictures up.
Thoughts of the day
Today Brother in law casually advice me that we are not spending enough time and not enough talking with Ryann. Honestly speaking, with Hubby's work schedule it is really true. With my recent hectic schedule it seems extremely hard to come back on time. Although i am putting my 100% trust on God for his speech, sometimes i really hope i can spend more time with Ryann. I do not want to waste Ryann's precious first 3 years. By next year when i start my studies, it is going to be worse. Really need to work something out. God, give me the wisdom!
Wednesday, 7 October 2009
6th Oct Lack of Updates
OK, I know I have not been updating regularly like before. Work is killing me recently that I will head to the bed almost immediately after trying to put Ryann to bed. Look at the time of this post, you would know. I woke up in the middle of the night after realizing that I had dozed off on Ryann's bed.
Anyway just some updates.
I have decided to pull Ryann out of talent plus by this month. He had been crying recently at the entrance of the school but after playing for a while, he gets settled down and will be playing like nothing happened. I am not afraid that he is missing out much since the school is not doing much anyway. Almost all the students would be redrawing their kids out by November. That's how bad it is.
This morning Ryann did something so sweet. Hubby supposes to bring him over to mum's place and I am supposes to leave home for work at the same time. Ryann ran out of the house before I was even ready. After reaching the lift lobby, he realized that I am not around and he ran back home calling: "Ma Ma, Ma Ma" Oh how sweet!
As I bid him good-bye to go to work, I already started missing him. How I wish I would have more time to spent with him every week.
Anyway just some updates.
I have decided to pull Ryann out of talent plus by this month. He had been crying recently at the entrance of the school but after playing for a while, he gets settled down and will be playing like nothing happened. I am not afraid that he is missing out much since the school is not doing much anyway. Almost all the students would be redrawing their kids out by November. That's how bad it is.
This morning Ryann did something so sweet. Hubby supposes to bring him over to mum's place and I am supposes to leave home for work at the same time. Ryann ran out of the house before I was even ready. After reaching the lift lobby, he realized that I am not around and he ran back home calling: "Ma Ma, Ma Ma" Oh how sweet!
As I bid him good-bye to go to work, I already started missing him. How I wish I would have more time to spent with him every week.
Sunday, 4 October 2009
1st Oct Happy childrens' day
Ryann certainly still do not know what is children’s' day yet but I am sure he would enjoy it next year when he starts to go to childcare. Rhys came back with a bag full of gifts and snacks from the teachers. Of cos he refuse to share with Ryann, who can resist the big bag of gifts and snacks.
Rhys went for review with Doctor Tan today and surprisingly she remembers Ryann and got Rhys to pass Ryann a little ball as a gift for children's day.
A child always enjoys simple pleasures of life. Sometimes I feel we adults should learn from the kids. Be really contended with all things and enjoying every moment. Ryann is a smiling toddler and it is never hard to get him to smile. One video to show happy Ryann with his favorite Elmo playing pretends to eat.
Rhys went for review with Doctor Tan today and surprisingly she remembers Ryann and got Rhys to pass Ryann a little ball as a gift for children's day.
A child always enjoys simple pleasures of life. Sometimes I feel we adults should learn from the kids. Be really contended with all things and enjoying every moment. Ryann is a smiling toddler and it is never hard to get him to smile. One video to show happy Ryann with his favorite Elmo playing pretends to eat.
Thursday, 1 October 2009
30th Sept Actual dinner anniversary
Today is our actual day dinner anniversary. Nothing much on celebrations, we went to vivo for a movie
Time flies. Maintaining this marriage wasn’t easy. But I should say I am very blessed.
He does the laundry and house work during his off days which is on weekdays since I would be very occupied with Ryann on Sunday.
He is often very agreeable and easily contended person.
His favorite taglines are never mind, anything and ok lor. I am usually the disciplinary one for Ryann and his is the playmate. He will lose his cool at times that is when I will swap roles with him. I believe a marriage takes communication and a mutual understanding when dealing with situations. We need to have a silent connection to blend well in parenthood too.
I would say I know him quite well but still learning more each day, good and the bad points. Through him, I learned more about myself too. At the end of the day I thank God for him; surely he is a blessing to me.
28th Sept Teaching the correct values
Teaching the right values and manners is not an easy chore. It takes patience, lots of love and a forgiving heart. Ryann love to challenge and test my patience. At times I will even bring out the cane to discipline him and there were times when he even lift up his hands for me to cane him. Little Ah beng truly live up his name. At times when we said: “打你“”, he will do the action and say: “打 “.
Rhys who is 1 year older then Ryann is also getting more mischievous then before. Very smart boy actually. Whenever my bro-in-law or my sister scolds him, he will run to my mum for protection. Well, that is certainly not healthy, as my mum will always protect him. This some times will get my sister and bro-in-law unhappy.
There was once I brought him some books and I ask Rhys what should he say to me. Rhys just refuses to thank me for the books. So I jokingly told him that I will give the books to Ryann instead and that got him real mad but still refusing to say thank you. Seeing my bro-in-law trying to tell him to be courteous, I fade away so that I don’t interfere with his teachings. Of course Rhys started crying and whining. Naturally, my mum came to his rescue and that got my bro-in-law real mad. He immediately wanted to go home. Knowingly that my bro-in-law isn’t happy already, I told my mother that manners have to be taught. If you keep protecting him, he will not learn and will assume this kind of attitude is correct. Being grandmother’s gem, naturally protected by her, what could we say?
Today again, I came back from work and Rhys didn’t greet me at door. So I tried to hold his hands and disturb him with intention to play with him. But not only did he refuse, he swept off my hands and still insisted on ignoring me. I thought that was really rude. Usually I don’t discipline him that much unless necessary when my sister is not around. But this time I got to tell him that it is not right to do so. So I stomp out to the living room after he ran out and I ask him why he is behaving like that. He refuses to maintain eye contact with me. Worse still, he rolled his eyes on me. ARGH! I threaten to tell teacher Maggie (his school principle) then he managed to tame down a little bit by telling me he don’t want me to complain to her.
It is like the preludes of what Ryann is going to be next year as Ryann isn’t that tame either. Very often Ryann will snatch toys with Rhys too. Hopefully not, I prayed. Daddy God will give me the wisdom and patience I need to be a mother and Daddy God will teach Ryann to be a great child of God.
Rhys who is 1 year older then Ryann is also getting more mischievous then before. Very smart boy actually. Whenever my bro-in-law or my sister scolds him, he will run to my mum for protection. Well, that is certainly not healthy, as my mum will always protect him. This some times will get my sister and bro-in-law unhappy.
There was once I brought him some books and I ask Rhys what should he say to me. Rhys just refuses to thank me for the books. So I jokingly told him that I will give the books to Ryann instead and that got him real mad but still refusing to say thank you. Seeing my bro-in-law trying to tell him to be courteous, I fade away so that I don’t interfere with his teachings. Of course Rhys started crying and whining. Naturally, my mum came to his rescue and that got my bro-in-law real mad. He immediately wanted to go home. Knowingly that my bro-in-law isn’t happy already, I told my mother that manners have to be taught. If you keep protecting him, he will not learn and will assume this kind of attitude is correct. Being grandmother’s gem, naturally protected by her, what could we say?
Today again, I came back from work and Rhys didn’t greet me at door. So I tried to hold his hands and disturb him with intention to play with him. But not only did he refuse, he swept off my hands and still insisted on ignoring me. I thought that was really rude. Usually I don’t discipline him that much unless necessary when my sister is not around. But this time I got to tell him that it is not right to do so. So I stomp out to the living room after he ran out and I ask him why he is behaving like that. He refuses to maintain eye contact with me. Worse still, he rolled his eyes on me. ARGH! I threaten to tell teacher Maggie (his school principle) then he managed to tame down a little bit by telling me he don’t want me to complain to her.
It is like the preludes of what Ryann is going to be next year as Ryann isn’t that tame either. Very often Ryann will snatch toys with Rhys too. Hopefully not, I prayed. Daddy God will give me the wisdom and patience I need to be a mother and Daddy God will teach Ryann to be a great child of God.
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