Every thing seems to be more settled down now. For some of you who would already knew, my dad passed on peacefully on the 24th Jan 2010. Was busy trying to settle the wake and some balance house holds issues.
Mum has decided to go back to the workforce and would most likely be looking out for some things to do once Ryann is more settled down in school. We have converted Ryann to full day childcare since 1st of Feb and Ryann seems to be adapting to it slowly. Frequent cries and refuse to drink milk initially but all thanks to 'smelly pillow'. He manages to sleep better in school with it.
In fact, there were so many things I would want to blog about in Jan but guess too many things happened recently and I got too overwhelm by the incidents. But I will just try to remember as much as I can.
Ryann's development:
Ryann surprise me with his longest spelling word - Sea horse.
His longest sentence so far: I want go Ah Ma house see auntie.
When I am having my dinner, he will come near me and say:” I, I want to eat rice."
He loves waking me up by slapping me on my face or arms and call Ma Ma in the sweetest voice.
His favorite tag line now:” I want carry"
When he is on half day still, I asked him:"Ryann, do you want to go to school"
He replied:” I want my school"
When he first started full day, I asked him again:"Ryann, do you want to go to school?"
He replied:” Don’t want." (*Faint)
More updates coming up soon once i manage to squeeze time from my school project assignments and work.
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Monday, 8 February 2010
Tuesday, 17 November 2009
8th Nov Birthday dinner with my in laws
When i first got to know that my sister in law is going to celebrate my birthday for me by buying me dinner, I wasn't really shocked as she never fails to remember my birthday. What was really special is that not only she came along, Xiao Shu and Xiao Gu (my hubby's uncle and auntie) together with their family, my father in law and Grand pa came along too. Literally is 2 tables and i bet the dinner must have cost quite a bit. So highlights here.
Smiley Ryann after warming up.
So happy to see himself through the camera LCD.
He tried to sqeeze in between us.
From Left: Ryann , Me, Meining (back) , Sister in law, Father in law, hubby and Ah girl ( God sister/cousin )
Together with Grand Pa - All the grand children and great grand son.
Smiley Ryann after warming up.
So happy to see himself through the camera LCD.
He tried to sqeeze in between us.
From Left: Ryann , Me, Meining (back) , Sister in law, Father in law, hubby and Ah girl ( God sister/cousin )
Together with Grand Pa - All the grand children and great grand son.My sister in law got me a diamond pendant from Lee Hwa.
I am usually not so emotional but seriously speaking I am really very touched. Reason being that my own blood sister never even wishes me Happy Birthday via sms. It is not the gifts that matter but the love I received from my sister in law is really a far cry from my own sister. I feel quite upset about it. I was grumbling to my hubby and he replied saying:” Every year you say the same thing over again, ain't you bored?" Then I realized that I have been grumbling the same thing every year as I really dun feel the expressive kind of love from my own sister. Or I should say I feeling abit unwanted or unloved. Anyway, God restored me a wonderful sister in law and no words can really describe how I feel. I am feeling so blessed, so loved by my in law family. Thank God for all of them!
Monday, 16 November 2009
5th Nov - 7th Nov - My 28th birthday celebrations
Based on my understanding, i think this year is the first year whereby i didnt take leave on my birthday. I guess as years goes by, birthday isn't that exciting anymore. For the first time when the clock strikes 12mn on 5th of November, i was already asleep. I am sure i am more excited on Ryann's birthday. Let the pictures do the talking.
My precious gift from God - Ryann.
He was so happy when he saw the candles and he was trying to blow the candles together with me.
Finally one photo that i feel Ryann resemblance me. Cos every one have been telling me how much Ryann looks like hubby.
He was so excited about cutting the cake. I guess next year's birthday would most likely be fun for Ryann.
Look at Ryann's mouth! full of chocolate!
Very touched with the hand made gift from Park Mall gals. I feel so blessed. I am gonna miss all of you next time when i am not in charge of PM. Muacks!
Many thanks to Ros who will always remember my birthday! Her birthday is on the 7th so we went out with MJ for our birthday lunch together. Mine 5th, Ros 7th and MJ 15th.
The not so surprise cake cos i saw the reflection on the glass panel and actually kind of guessed it. However, i am still very very touched.
My ice cream cake! Yummy! got to hit the gym!
Me and April - my ballon sculptor!
Me and mei mei MJ
Not so complete team =(
I was on half day shift so was able to catch a movie with Hubby - Jennifer's body by Megan Fox. After that we went for steamboat at Crystal Jade PS. Yummy! We were so full after we couldn't resist the mee. Wasted.
Back home, Hubby prepared Chocolate cake! Yummy! must really hit the gym le!
Ryann got really excited about it. Maybe he thinks that it is his birthday?Probably not. Cos he sang me a birthday song with the loudest "MA" i have ever heard from him. The most precious gift.
Wah! so many candles! Ryann was counting the number of candles. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10! So it seems that i am only 10 years old to Ryann.
My precious gift from God - Ryann.
He was so happy when he saw the candles and he was trying to blow the candles together with me.
Finally one photo that i feel Ryann resemblance me. Cos every one have been telling me how much Ryann looks like hubby.
He was so excited about cutting the cake. I guess next year's birthday would most likely be fun for Ryann.Look at Ryann's mouth! full of chocolate!Very touched with the hand made gift from Park Mall gals. I feel so blessed. I am gonna miss all of you next time when i am not in charge of PM. Muacks!
Many thanks to Ros who will always remember my birthday! Her birthday is on the 7th so we went out with MJ for our birthday lunch together. Mine 5th, Ros 7th and MJ 15th.
November Scorpios lunch date.
One of the highlights! Berries Sherbet! And i really love my G11. Still exploring!
One of the highlights! Berries Sherbet! And i really love my G11. Still exploring!Friday, 30 October 2009
30th Oct Story to share
Story that touched my heart. Lengthy but really hit straight into my heart .
4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.
There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!
Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.
However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.
A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say,
'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the
reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son
has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, 'I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy. My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to
the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing
what to do, what to say.....
I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.
And one of the letters broke my heart....
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit
me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing
you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But
Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?
After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are
totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first. With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing
matters more than your well being.
4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.
There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!
Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.
However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.
A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say,
'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the
reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son
has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, 'I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy. My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to
the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing
what to do, what to say.....
I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.
And one of the letters broke my heart....
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit
me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing
you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But
Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?
After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are
totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first. With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing
matters more than your well being.
Thursday, 22 October 2009
21st Oct Thoughts of the week
Today we had our monthly staff birthday celebration and as usual Jasmine (COO and founder of Amore Fitness) shared with us some thoughts, which I felt like a new revelation in my heart.
It’s about forgiveness.
How easy said then done? How many of us can really forgive and forget? There was a saying:"You will only receive happiness when happenings happen to happen the way you want it to happen." Then what about happenings that do not happen the way you want it to happen? If it involves human relationship, many times we will get angry or hold grudges against that person.
Example: Your husband is snoring very loudly and disturbing your sleep. You toss around the bed for hours but you just cant get to sleep because he is just too loud. At this situation, look at your husband, he is sleeping soundly and enjoying his rest. But whom is the one suffering?
I came to realize that when u get angry with someone or when you cant forgive someone, you actually put yourself into the bondage. They might not even know or worse still, they might not care if you are angry or not. So who is at the losing end? But again it takes more energy, effort, courage and strength to forgive then to strive for peace and harmony.
As what was shared during CG, you set others free to set yourself free.
This is extremely helpful to me as I was recently challenged with some office politics, which I really hate most. It is painful as it came unexpectedly from some one whom I trusted. This incident at work got me really angry and I was badly affected. God is good all the time as he used 3 different situations to remind me about this theory so as to set myself free. This was also one revelation I received from the TVB serial drama.
Today, seeing that person again during meeting, I felt no pain, no hard feelings and no anger as I have truly set myself free.
Hope this little revelation of mine can help to set more people free.
P/S: Ryann is showing his terrible twos signs... when i scolded him for not taking off his shoes at home before playing, he crossed his arms and even turn his face away from me with sound effect "hmp" some more....
It’s about forgiveness.
How easy said then done? How many of us can really forgive and forget? There was a saying:"You will only receive happiness when happenings happen to happen the way you want it to happen." Then what about happenings that do not happen the way you want it to happen? If it involves human relationship, many times we will get angry or hold grudges against that person.
Example: Your husband is snoring very loudly and disturbing your sleep. You toss around the bed for hours but you just cant get to sleep because he is just too loud. At this situation, look at your husband, he is sleeping soundly and enjoying his rest. But whom is the one suffering?
I came to realize that when u get angry with someone or when you cant forgive someone, you actually put yourself into the bondage. They might not even know or worse still, they might not care if you are angry or not. So who is at the losing end? But again it takes more energy, effort, courage and strength to forgive then to strive for peace and harmony.
As what was shared during CG, you set others free to set yourself free.
This is extremely helpful to me as I was recently challenged with some office politics, which I really hate most. It is painful as it came unexpectedly from some one whom I trusted. This incident at work got me really angry and I was badly affected. God is good all the time as he used 3 different situations to remind me about this theory so as to set myself free. This was also one revelation I received from the TVB serial drama.
Today, seeing that person again during meeting, I felt no pain, no hard feelings and no anger as I have truly set myself free.
Hope this little revelation of mine can help to set more people free.
P/S: Ryann is showing his terrible twos signs... when i scolded him for not taking off his shoes at home before playing, he crossed his arms and even turn his face away from me with sound effect "hmp" some more....
Sunday, 4 October 2009
1st Oct Happy childrens' day
Ryann certainly still do not know what is children’s' day yet but I am sure he would enjoy it next year when he starts to go to childcare. Rhys came back with a bag full of gifts and snacks from the teachers. Of cos he refuse to share with Ryann, who can resist the big bag of gifts and snacks.
Rhys went for review with Doctor Tan today and surprisingly she remembers Ryann and got Rhys to pass Ryann a little ball as a gift for children's day.
A child always enjoys simple pleasures of life. Sometimes I feel we adults should learn from the kids. Be really contended with all things and enjoying every moment. Ryann is a smiling toddler and it is never hard to get him to smile. One video to show happy Ryann with his favorite Elmo playing pretends to eat.
Rhys went for review with Doctor Tan today and surprisingly she remembers Ryann and got Rhys to pass Ryann a little ball as a gift for children's day.
A child always enjoys simple pleasures of life. Sometimes I feel we adults should learn from the kids. Be really contended with all things and enjoying every moment. Ryann is a smiling toddler and it is never hard to get him to smile. One video to show happy Ryann with his favorite Elmo playing pretends to eat.
Thursday, 1 October 2009
30th Sept Actual dinner anniversary
Today is our actual day dinner anniversary. Nothing much on celebrations, we went to vivo for a movie
Time flies. Maintaining this marriage wasn’t easy. But I should say I am very blessed.
He does the laundry and house work during his off days which is on weekdays since I would be very occupied with Ryann on Sunday.
He is often very agreeable and easily contended person.
His favorite taglines are never mind, anything and ok lor. I am usually the disciplinary one for Ryann and his is the playmate. He will lose his cool at times that is when I will swap roles with him. I believe a marriage takes communication and a mutual understanding when dealing with situations. We need to have a silent connection to blend well in parenthood too.
I would say I know him quite well but still learning more each day, good and the bad points. Through him, I learned more about myself too. At the end of the day I thank God for him; surely he is a blessing to me.
28th Sept Teaching the correct values
Teaching the right values and manners is not an easy chore. It takes patience, lots of love and a forgiving heart. Ryann love to challenge and test my patience. At times I will even bring out the cane to discipline him and there were times when he even lift up his hands for me to cane him. Little Ah beng truly live up his name. At times when we said: “打你“”, he will do the action and say: “打 “.
Rhys who is 1 year older then Ryann is also getting more mischievous then before. Very smart boy actually. Whenever my bro-in-law or my sister scolds him, he will run to my mum for protection. Well, that is certainly not healthy, as my mum will always protect him. This some times will get my sister and bro-in-law unhappy.
There was once I brought him some books and I ask Rhys what should he say to me. Rhys just refuses to thank me for the books. So I jokingly told him that I will give the books to Ryann instead and that got him real mad but still refusing to say thank you. Seeing my bro-in-law trying to tell him to be courteous, I fade away so that I don’t interfere with his teachings. Of course Rhys started crying and whining. Naturally, my mum came to his rescue and that got my bro-in-law real mad. He immediately wanted to go home. Knowingly that my bro-in-law isn’t happy already, I told my mother that manners have to be taught. If you keep protecting him, he will not learn and will assume this kind of attitude is correct. Being grandmother’s gem, naturally protected by her, what could we say?
Today again, I came back from work and Rhys didn’t greet me at door. So I tried to hold his hands and disturb him with intention to play with him. But not only did he refuse, he swept off my hands and still insisted on ignoring me. I thought that was really rude. Usually I don’t discipline him that much unless necessary when my sister is not around. But this time I got to tell him that it is not right to do so. So I stomp out to the living room after he ran out and I ask him why he is behaving like that. He refuses to maintain eye contact with me. Worse still, he rolled his eyes on me. ARGH! I threaten to tell teacher Maggie (his school principle) then he managed to tame down a little bit by telling me he don’t want me to complain to her.
It is like the preludes of what Ryann is going to be next year as Ryann isn’t that tame either. Very often Ryann will snatch toys with Rhys too. Hopefully not, I prayed. Daddy God will give me the wisdom and patience I need to be a mother and Daddy God will teach Ryann to be a great child of God.
Rhys who is 1 year older then Ryann is also getting more mischievous then before. Very smart boy actually. Whenever my bro-in-law or my sister scolds him, he will run to my mum for protection. Well, that is certainly not healthy, as my mum will always protect him. This some times will get my sister and bro-in-law unhappy.
There was once I brought him some books and I ask Rhys what should he say to me. Rhys just refuses to thank me for the books. So I jokingly told him that I will give the books to Ryann instead and that got him real mad but still refusing to say thank you. Seeing my bro-in-law trying to tell him to be courteous, I fade away so that I don’t interfere with his teachings. Of course Rhys started crying and whining. Naturally, my mum came to his rescue and that got my bro-in-law real mad. He immediately wanted to go home. Knowingly that my bro-in-law isn’t happy already, I told my mother that manners have to be taught. If you keep protecting him, he will not learn and will assume this kind of attitude is correct. Being grandmother’s gem, naturally protected by her, what could we say?
Today again, I came back from work and Rhys didn’t greet me at door. So I tried to hold his hands and disturb him with intention to play with him. But not only did he refuse, he swept off my hands and still insisted on ignoring me. I thought that was really rude. Usually I don’t discipline him that much unless necessary when my sister is not around. But this time I got to tell him that it is not right to do so. So I stomp out to the living room after he ran out and I ask him why he is behaving like that. He refuses to maintain eye contact with me. Worse still, he rolled his eyes on me. ARGH! I threaten to tell teacher Maggie (his school principle) then he managed to tame down a little bit by telling me he don’t want me to complain to her.
It is like the preludes of what Ryann is going to be next year as Ryann isn’t that tame either. Very often Ryann will snatch toys with Rhys too. Hopefully not, I prayed. Daddy God will give me the wisdom and patience I need to be a mother and Daddy God will teach Ryann to be a great child of God.
Monday, 24 August 2009
23rd Aug Goodbye Wonder Women
I cant remember when I started reading blogs from wonder women dot com. 3 particular wonder woman caught my attention most and I have been following their blogs ever since then.
3 of them had one thing in common - cancer.
Molly Lee - founder of we are wonder woman website
Molly Lee was a three-time cancer sufferer who set up WeAreWonderWomen.com to support other young women going through cancer. Molly passed away on 29 May 2008, after being named the Singapore Woman of the Year by MediaCorp.
Her husband, Josef is still running the website for her and recently started the Molly Lee appeal to raise funds for woman who may face difficulties in paying for the cancer treatments.
3 of them had one thing in common - cancer.
Molly Lee - founder of we are wonder woman website
Molly Lee was a three-time cancer sufferer who set up WeAreWonderWomen.com to support other young women going through cancer. Molly passed away on 29 May 2008, after being named the Singapore Woman of the Year by MediaCorp.
Her husband, Josef is still running the website for her and recently started the Molly Lee appeal to raise funds for woman who may face difficulties in paying for the cancer treatments.
Shin Na
Shin was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer in December 2005. In February 2008, her cancer had spread to her brain, liver, lungs, and bones. She lived in Singapore with her husband Tony, daughter Josie and son Toby.
Shin is just amazing. she writes very well and was one mother with strong fighting spirit. She gave her all to her 2 beautiful children and shared with us her journey battling cancer. She lived every day to the fullest and spent her every day as a wonderful mummy to both Josie and Toby. Even after she is gone, she donated her organs and her body for research and educational purpose. I blogged about her demised, back in Jan this year. It is just amazing how she prepared the kids to face her death.
Fleur (Flora)
Flora was diagnosed with Stage4 of Metastatic Breast Cancer, which means the cancer cells have spread to her liver and her bones. In August 06, she was found to have multiple spots in her liver, with the biggest tumor at 5.7cm. August 2008, tumors in her liver relapsed.
Flora shared alot on her fight with cancer and how cancer changed her life in general and even her marriage life. Despite her condition, she still remains cheerful and positive about life. I always feel a sense of joy communicating with her.
She went home to be with our Lord this morning at 530am.
3 of them taught me alot about life, a side of life, which not every one will experience. They taught me how to be a better mother, a better wife and a better friend. Till we meet again, wonder women!
Wednesday, 19 August 2009
Prayers for cancer patient Fleur
For those who read Fleur's blog will know she is a very strong 'wonder woman', fighting cancer with a positive mindset together with God.
Today, her situation has got worse and is sleeping most of the time.
Please join her family to recite Psalms 23 at 9pm today 19 aug 2009 where ever you are and what ever you are doing. Proclaim her healing by the finished work of God.
Today, her situation has got worse and is sleeping most of the time.
Please join her family to recite Psalms 23 at 9pm today 19 aug 2009 where ever you are and what ever you are doing. Proclaim her healing by the finished work of God.
Tuesday, 28 July 2009
26th July Ryann's first sunday without auntie Tri
I went over to mum's place in the morning, as Winnie (new maid) was alone at home with dad. Mum need to go to do some marketing and Winnie has yet to master the art of carrying dad from the bed to the wheelchair. She does not know how to coax dad to eat his medicine too.
Ryann as usual rejecting her most of the time and at times I see him going into every single room which I guess could be looking for Tri.
All was fine until it is almost time to cook for Ryann but she still have yet to prepare the meat and stuff. I ask her to prepare mee sua for Ryann. She just nodded but did nothing. I guessed she doesn't understand me so I demonstrated to her. Bring the meat from the freezer and soak the bag in water to de-freeze it. With my half past six Malay language, she managed to understand about the meat part.
While waiting for the meat to de-froze, I decided to cook myself instant noodles too. So I started cooking and Winnie assisted me. When I am done with my cooking. She started putting Ryann on the highchair as she had intention to feed Ryann with Maggi Mee! I didn't know how to react but I wanted to laugh. When I told her that the instant noodles are not for Ryann, she gave me this very blur look. So end up I cook for Ryann myself with her watching me.
Language is a big issue right now. I hope she will pick things up faster and able to relieve mum from the house chores soon. It is either she picks up English or I would have to pick up bahasa melayu. Anyone can help me?
Ryann as usual rejecting her most of the time and at times I see him going into every single room which I guess could be looking for Tri.
All was fine until it is almost time to cook for Ryann but she still have yet to prepare the meat and stuff. I ask her to prepare mee sua for Ryann. She just nodded but did nothing. I guessed she doesn't understand me so I demonstrated to her. Bring the meat from the freezer and soak the bag in water to de-freeze it. With my half past six Malay language, she managed to understand about the meat part.
While waiting for the meat to de-froze, I decided to cook myself instant noodles too. So I started cooking and Winnie assisted me. When I am done with my cooking. She started putting Ryann on the highchair as she had intention to feed Ryann with Maggi Mee! I didn't know how to react but I wanted to laugh. When I told her that the instant noodles are not for Ryann, she gave me this very blur look. So end up I cook for Ryann myself with her watching me.
Language is a big issue right now. I hope she will pick things up faster and able to relieve mum from the house chores soon. It is either she picks up English or I would have to pick up bahasa melayu. Anyone can help me?
Friday, 24 July 2009
23rd July Rhys might has contacted chicken pox virus
My nephew Rhys might has contacted chicken pox virus from his childcare despite having taken the vaccine jab. Spots started showing on his body and neck. He is not allowed to go to school and thus would be at mum's place. My new maid and Ryann have yet to take any chicken pox jab before and thus tomorrow Hubby will take childcare leave to take care of Ryann. However, it is really impossible for us to take full 2 weeks leave if Rhys really got chicken pox, as my sis will be putting Rhys at my mum's place for sure.
However, I really have to thank God for preparing me for this incident.
Firstly, my hubby's CCL application was not self-initiated but scheduled by the company. Just in time for Ryann to be at home instead.
Secondly, I have been listening to this power sermon of Pastor Prince and he said that instead of asking God to heal us when we have lying symptoms of illness, God has something better for us. That is real protection against any disease, germs and virus and they can’t even touch us. We are immune due to the sacrifice of Christ Jesus. So instead of praying for healing every time Ryann is sick, I started giving thanks to God for protecting our family from any illness, diseases and germs. I had peace in my heart as I know 'Surely God will deliver us ' (Psalms 91).
Thirdly, I have been meditating on Romans 8:2 for the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. This was my MSN greeting message for a couple of days already.
Fourthly, I usually don't bring my bible out but these 2 days I brought along my bible with no apparent reason why. Today when I heard that Rhys might get chicken pox, immediately I pray for protection and for the peace in my heart. I took out my bible and started reading Romans 8:2 and Psalms 91.
All these add together with a stronger faith and the God of peace was with me. I know Ryann would be well protected by His angels. Just like how God protected Boyz's kids when his elder daughter got chicken pox too. Just like how God protected Ryann during our last Malaysia trip. I am feeling so blessed. Thank God for your protection and love.
However, I really have to thank God for preparing me for this incident.
Firstly, my hubby's CCL application was not self-initiated but scheduled by the company. Just in time for Ryann to be at home instead.
Secondly, I have been listening to this power sermon of Pastor Prince and he said that instead of asking God to heal us when we have lying symptoms of illness, God has something better for us. That is real protection against any disease, germs and virus and they can’t even touch us. We are immune due to the sacrifice of Christ Jesus. So instead of praying for healing every time Ryann is sick, I started giving thanks to God for protecting our family from any illness, diseases and germs. I had peace in my heart as I know 'Surely God will deliver us ' (Psalms 91).
Thirdly, I have been meditating on Romans 8:2 for the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. This was my MSN greeting message for a couple of days already.
Fourthly, I usually don't bring my bible out but these 2 days I brought along my bible with no apparent reason why. Today when I heard that Rhys might get chicken pox, immediately I pray for protection and for the peace in my heart. I took out my bible and started reading Romans 8:2 and Psalms 91.
All these add together with a stronger faith and the God of peace was with me. I know Ryann would be well protected by His angels. Just like how God protected Boyz's kids when his elder daughter got chicken pox too. Just like how God protected Ryann during our last Malaysia trip. I am feeling so blessed. Thank God for your protection and love.
Wednesday, 22 July 2009
Special revelation
Peter, my finance department HOD shared a story during award presentation today and I thought I should share with all as well.
We can spend lots of money on renovation or furniture of our house but we can’t buy a home.
Home is always our resting place, our shelter when we meet up with storms in the outside world.
Having a great relationship with our families are important and we need to add in the FUN factor.
F for Faithfulness and commitment
U for understanding one another
N for nurturing
In order to show faithfulness and commitment to the family, the trust must be there too. Especially on money issues, if we are able to talk about money issues openly, this shows the trust, faithfulness and commitment of the relationship. Bad days or good days, husband and wife still stand together faithfully. You know that when you meet up with any problems, your family will always be there for you.
Understanding one another through bonding activities or even through simple gestures. Quality time spent with our family is very important. Try to always spend at least 10-15 minutes daily communicating with our partner or our child. You can ask your child what he/she had learned today. Or even just simply asking our spouse "how was your day?"
Understanding one another needs communication and there are 3 important things we must always do.
We can spend lots of money on renovation or furniture of our house but we can’t buy a home.
Home is always our resting place, our shelter when we meet up with storms in the outside world.
Having a great relationship with our families are important and we need to add in the FUN factor.
F for Faithfulness and commitment
U for understanding one another
N for nurturing
In order to show faithfulness and commitment to the family, the trust must be there too. Especially on money issues, if we are able to talk about money issues openly, this shows the trust, faithfulness and commitment of the relationship. Bad days or good days, husband and wife still stand together faithfully. You know that when you meet up with any problems, your family will always be there for you.
Understanding one another through bonding activities or even through simple gestures. Quality time spent with our family is very important. Try to always spend at least 10-15 minutes daily communicating with our partner or our child. You can ask your child what he/she had learned today. Or even just simply asking our spouse "how was your day?"
Understanding one another needs communication and there are 3 important things we must always do.
- Say 'I love you' - this 3 words are really powerful
- Say ' I thank you' - We often forget to appreciate the things that we do for each other but will always be reminded of the negative things that we do.
- Say ' I am sorry' - able to humble ourselves down, showing empathy and love.
Lastly, nurturing a relationship takes time, takes personal effort and all the above mentioned - faithfulness, commitment, understanding one another and most importantly, with God's love.
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