Fruitful year we had. This year was filled with lots of surprises from Ryann.
Times flies so fast. Ryann grew taller and we are hearing him talk more often.
Ryann mastered the alphabets and numbers from 1-20.
He knows how to spell more then 20 words and the longest is Rocket and the sweetest is Love.
He knows how to greet most of us. Pa Pa, Ma Ma, Ah Mah, Ah Gong, Yi Yi, Zhang Zhang, Auntie, Kor Kor, Jie Jie, Gu Gu and Ye Ye.
He will express his wants by telling us - I want milk milk, I want go home, I want gai gai, I want toy, I want yo yo (sarong) I want book etc....
He prefers to sleep on our bed then his own nowadays.
He will say bye bye, see you, muacks whenever we are leaving for work.
He is now able to tell us when he wants to poo. "I want poo poo"
He will take off his shoes and place them back to the original place every time we are back home.
Not that we are having good days all the time, he got scoldings from us big time whenever he does certain things that is dangerous.
Now after learning through the hard way, he learned to hold my hands while crossing the road and also to wait for us before entering the lift.
Ryann is a big boy now and i believe he is ready for school in 2010. Welcome 2010!
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Thursday, 31 December 2009
Tuesday, 17 November 2009
8th Nov Birthday dinner with my in laws
When i first got to know that my sister in law is going to celebrate my birthday for me by buying me dinner, I wasn't really shocked as she never fails to remember my birthday. What was really special is that not only she came along, Xiao Shu and Xiao Gu (my hubby's uncle and auntie) together with their family, my father in law and Grand pa came along too. Literally is 2 tables and i bet the dinner must have cost quite a bit. So highlights here.
Smiley Ryann after warming up.
So happy to see himself through the camera LCD.
He tried to sqeeze in between us.
From Left: Ryann , Me, Meining (back) , Sister in law, Father in law, hubby and Ah girl ( God sister/cousin )
Together with Grand Pa - All the grand children and great grand son.
Smiley Ryann after warming up.
So happy to see himself through the camera LCD.
He tried to sqeeze in between us.
From Left: Ryann , Me, Meining (back) , Sister in law, Father in law, hubby and Ah girl ( God sister/cousin )
Together with Grand Pa - All the grand children and great grand son.My sister in law got me a diamond pendant from Lee Hwa.
I am usually not so emotional but seriously speaking I am really very touched. Reason being that my own blood sister never even wishes me Happy Birthday via sms. It is not the gifts that matter but the love I received from my sister in law is really a far cry from my own sister. I feel quite upset about it. I was grumbling to my hubby and he replied saying:” Every year you say the same thing over again, ain't you bored?" Then I realized that I have been grumbling the same thing every year as I really dun feel the expressive kind of love from my own sister. Or I should say I feeling abit unwanted or unloved. Anyway, God restored me a wonderful sister in law and no words can really describe how I feel. I am feeling so blessed, so loved by my in law family. Thank God for all of them!
Friday, 30 October 2009
30th Oct Story to share
Story that touched my heart. Lengthy but really hit straight into my heart .
4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.
There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!
Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.
However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.
A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say,
'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the
reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son
has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, 'I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy. My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to
the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing
what to do, what to say.....
I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.
And one of the letters broke my heart....
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit
me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing
you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But
Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?
After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are
totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first. With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing
matters more than your well being.
4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.
There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!
Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.
However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.
A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say,
'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the
reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son
has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, 'I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy. My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to
the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing
what to do, what to say.....
I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.
And one of the letters broke my heart....
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit
me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing
you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But
Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?
After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are
totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first. With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing
matters more than your well being.
Thursday, 1 October 2009
28th Sept Teaching the correct values
Teaching the right values and manners is not an easy chore. It takes patience, lots of love and a forgiving heart. Ryann love to challenge and test my patience. At times I will even bring out the cane to discipline him and there were times when he even lift up his hands for me to cane him. Little Ah beng truly live up his name. At times when we said: “打你“”, he will do the action and say: “打 “.
Rhys who is 1 year older then Ryann is also getting more mischievous then before. Very smart boy actually. Whenever my bro-in-law or my sister scolds him, he will run to my mum for protection. Well, that is certainly not healthy, as my mum will always protect him. This some times will get my sister and bro-in-law unhappy.
There was once I brought him some books and I ask Rhys what should he say to me. Rhys just refuses to thank me for the books. So I jokingly told him that I will give the books to Ryann instead and that got him real mad but still refusing to say thank you. Seeing my bro-in-law trying to tell him to be courteous, I fade away so that I don’t interfere with his teachings. Of course Rhys started crying and whining. Naturally, my mum came to his rescue and that got my bro-in-law real mad. He immediately wanted to go home. Knowingly that my bro-in-law isn’t happy already, I told my mother that manners have to be taught. If you keep protecting him, he will not learn and will assume this kind of attitude is correct. Being grandmother’s gem, naturally protected by her, what could we say?
Today again, I came back from work and Rhys didn’t greet me at door. So I tried to hold his hands and disturb him with intention to play with him. But not only did he refuse, he swept off my hands and still insisted on ignoring me. I thought that was really rude. Usually I don’t discipline him that much unless necessary when my sister is not around. But this time I got to tell him that it is not right to do so. So I stomp out to the living room after he ran out and I ask him why he is behaving like that. He refuses to maintain eye contact with me. Worse still, he rolled his eyes on me. ARGH! I threaten to tell teacher Maggie (his school principle) then he managed to tame down a little bit by telling me he don’t want me to complain to her.
It is like the preludes of what Ryann is going to be next year as Ryann isn’t that tame either. Very often Ryann will snatch toys with Rhys too. Hopefully not, I prayed. Daddy God will give me the wisdom and patience I need to be a mother and Daddy God will teach Ryann to be a great child of God.
Rhys who is 1 year older then Ryann is also getting more mischievous then before. Very smart boy actually. Whenever my bro-in-law or my sister scolds him, he will run to my mum for protection. Well, that is certainly not healthy, as my mum will always protect him. This some times will get my sister and bro-in-law unhappy.
There was once I brought him some books and I ask Rhys what should he say to me. Rhys just refuses to thank me for the books. So I jokingly told him that I will give the books to Ryann instead and that got him real mad but still refusing to say thank you. Seeing my bro-in-law trying to tell him to be courteous, I fade away so that I don’t interfere with his teachings. Of course Rhys started crying and whining. Naturally, my mum came to his rescue and that got my bro-in-law real mad. He immediately wanted to go home. Knowingly that my bro-in-law isn’t happy already, I told my mother that manners have to be taught. If you keep protecting him, he will not learn and will assume this kind of attitude is correct. Being grandmother’s gem, naturally protected by her, what could we say?
Today again, I came back from work and Rhys didn’t greet me at door. So I tried to hold his hands and disturb him with intention to play with him. But not only did he refuse, he swept off my hands and still insisted on ignoring me. I thought that was really rude. Usually I don’t discipline him that much unless necessary when my sister is not around. But this time I got to tell him that it is not right to do so. So I stomp out to the living room after he ran out and I ask him why he is behaving like that. He refuses to maintain eye contact with me. Worse still, he rolled his eyes on me. ARGH! I threaten to tell teacher Maggie (his school principle) then he managed to tame down a little bit by telling me he don’t want me to complain to her.
It is like the preludes of what Ryann is going to be next year as Ryann isn’t that tame either. Very often Ryann will snatch toys with Rhys too. Hopefully not, I prayed. Daddy God will give me the wisdom and patience I need to be a mother and Daddy God will teach Ryann to be a great child of God.
Tuesday, 22 September 2009
12th Sept Ryann is 2 =p
Ryann - Few days old
Ryann - 1 year old
Ryann- 2 years oldRyann turns 2 today! Time really flies. From the first day I hug Ryann in my arms till today when he would run towards me and give me a big bear hug. The very first thing I always longed for after a hard day work.
Standing at almost 88 cm tall and weighing 13kg today, Ryann is a very active boy who loves music, singing, dancing and books. He owns his very own library section. Of all the many books he has, his favorite books are number books and the Disney ABC book.
At 2 years old, Ryann knows his A-Z and 1-20. He could say almost all the alphabets and he is able to say 1 - 13 and 18 without prompting.
Recently he even managed to spell his first word - STOP. All thanks to the many 'stop' road signs near our house.
Ryann's vocab is improving everyday. As I am a FTWM, I might not be able to witness every little first of his growth and improvement. However, Ryann never fail to impress me with new things he managed to learn.
These 2 years are filled with terrible times at times too. Ryann is really good at getting people's attention by crying his heart out. I always say his tears are free. He gives you freely. Every time when he don't get his way, he will scream his heart out. Painful to my heart as it is, at times I still need to stand firm so that I can teach and cultivate the right attitudes in life.
His favorite rejection method is 'NO NO NO'. He will stomp his feet like he is running on the spot or he will super 'sai nai'. Very strong character, he will not give in to you. (I smell terrible two's prelude)
Motherhood taught me many lessons and 2 years down the road, I realized that I am growing together with him. I have learned lessons of love, experiencing and understanding the love I receive as a child, understanding a feelings of my parents and most importantly, I have learned how to love again.
Tuesday, 1 September 2009
31st Aug Decision made - Learning Kidz Kovan
I am just too busy or I should say lazy to look for new school. I have decided to enroll Ryann for Learning Kidz Kovan for next year pre-N class.
I don't have time to find schools around Punggol since I have more or less seen most of them.
Learning Kidz is situated at Kovan Heartland Mall. Rhys is currently still at that childcare and Jane is teaching there too. At least I feel more at ease with familiar faces there.
When I went there for enrollment, they were having some teachers' day party. Ryann was quite shy at first and refused to go in. After which he followed me to teacher Maggie's room to fill up the forms.
After a while he started peeping at those children playing. Soon after he is more warmed up, he started going to the toys section, grab a truck and started playing.
Took a look at the classrooms during the tour, Ryann seems amazed by the number to toys and indoor playground.
When we were about to leave, he didn’t want to go home. Good signs I hope. =P
I don't have time to find schools around Punggol since I have more or less seen most of them.
Learning Kidz is situated at Kovan Heartland Mall. Rhys is currently still at that childcare and Jane is teaching there too. At least I feel more at ease with familiar faces there.
When I went there for enrollment, they were having some teachers' day party. Ryann was quite shy at first and refused to go in. After which he followed me to teacher Maggie's room to fill up the forms.
After a while he started peeping at those children playing. Soon after he is more warmed up, he started going to the toys section, grab a truck and started playing.
Took a look at the classrooms during the tour, Ryann seems amazed by the number to toys and indoor playground.
When we were about to leave, he didn’t want to go home. Good signs I hope. =P
Friday, 24 July 2009
23rd July Rhys might has contacted chicken pox virus
My nephew Rhys might has contacted chicken pox virus from his childcare despite having taken the vaccine jab. Spots started showing on his body and neck. He is not allowed to go to school and thus would be at mum's place. My new maid and Ryann have yet to take any chicken pox jab before and thus tomorrow Hubby will take childcare leave to take care of Ryann. However, it is really impossible for us to take full 2 weeks leave if Rhys really got chicken pox, as my sis will be putting Rhys at my mum's place for sure.
However, I really have to thank God for preparing me for this incident.
Firstly, my hubby's CCL application was not self-initiated but scheduled by the company. Just in time for Ryann to be at home instead.
Secondly, I have been listening to this power sermon of Pastor Prince and he said that instead of asking God to heal us when we have lying symptoms of illness, God has something better for us. That is real protection against any disease, germs and virus and they can’t even touch us. We are immune due to the sacrifice of Christ Jesus. So instead of praying for healing every time Ryann is sick, I started giving thanks to God for protecting our family from any illness, diseases and germs. I had peace in my heart as I know 'Surely God will deliver us ' (Psalms 91).
Thirdly, I have been meditating on Romans 8:2 for the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. This was my MSN greeting message for a couple of days already.
Fourthly, I usually don't bring my bible out but these 2 days I brought along my bible with no apparent reason why. Today when I heard that Rhys might get chicken pox, immediately I pray for protection and for the peace in my heart. I took out my bible and started reading Romans 8:2 and Psalms 91.
All these add together with a stronger faith and the God of peace was with me. I know Ryann would be well protected by His angels. Just like how God protected Boyz's kids when his elder daughter got chicken pox too. Just like how God protected Ryann during our last Malaysia trip. I am feeling so blessed. Thank God for your protection and love.
However, I really have to thank God for preparing me for this incident.
Firstly, my hubby's CCL application was not self-initiated but scheduled by the company. Just in time for Ryann to be at home instead.
Secondly, I have been listening to this power sermon of Pastor Prince and he said that instead of asking God to heal us when we have lying symptoms of illness, God has something better for us. That is real protection against any disease, germs and virus and they can’t even touch us. We are immune due to the sacrifice of Christ Jesus. So instead of praying for healing every time Ryann is sick, I started giving thanks to God for protecting our family from any illness, diseases and germs. I had peace in my heart as I know 'Surely God will deliver us ' (Psalms 91).
Thirdly, I have been meditating on Romans 8:2 for the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. This was my MSN greeting message for a couple of days already.
Fourthly, I usually don't bring my bible out but these 2 days I brought along my bible with no apparent reason why. Today when I heard that Rhys might get chicken pox, immediately I pray for protection and for the peace in my heart. I took out my bible and started reading Romans 8:2 and Psalms 91.
All these add together with a stronger faith and the God of peace was with me. I know Ryann would be well protected by His angels. Just like how God protected Boyz's kids when his elder daughter got chicken pox too. Just like how God protected Ryann during our last Malaysia trip. I am feeling so blessed. Thank God for your protection and love.
Wednesday, 22 July 2009
Special revelation
Peter, my finance department HOD shared a story during award presentation today and I thought I should share with all as well.
We can spend lots of money on renovation or furniture of our house but we can’t buy a home.
Home is always our resting place, our shelter when we meet up with storms in the outside world.
Having a great relationship with our families are important and we need to add in the FUN factor.
F for Faithfulness and commitment
U for understanding one another
N for nurturing
In order to show faithfulness and commitment to the family, the trust must be there too. Especially on money issues, if we are able to talk about money issues openly, this shows the trust, faithfulness and commitment of the relationship. Bad days or good days, husband and wife still stand together faithfully. You know that when you meet up with any problems, your family will always be there for you.
Understanding one another through bonding activities or even through simple gestures. Quality time spent with our family is very important. Try to always spend at least 10-15 minutes daily communicating with our partner or our child. You can ask your child what he/she had learned today. Or even just simply asking our spouse "how was your day?"
Understanding one another needs communication and there are 3 important things we must always do.
We can spend lots of money on renovation or furniture of our house but we can’t buy a home.
Home is always our resting place, our shelter when we meet up with storms in the outside world.
Having a great relationship with our families are important and we need to add in the FUN factor.
F for Faithfulness and commitment
U for understanding one another
N for nurturing
In order to show faithfulness and commitment to the family, the trust must be there too. Especially on money issues, if we are able to talk about money issues openly, this shows the trust, faithfulness and commitment of the relationship. Bad days or good days, husband and wife still stand together faithfully. You know that when you meet up with any problems, your family will always be there for you.
Understanding one another through bonding activities or even through simple gestures. Quality time spent with our family is very important. Try to always spend at least 10-15 minutes daily communicating with our partner or our child. You can ask your child what he/she had learned today. Or even just simply asking our spouse "how was your day?"
Understanding one another needs communication and there are 3 important things we must always do.
- Say 'I love you' - this 3 words are really powerful
- Say ' I thank you' - We often forget to appreciate the things that we do for each other but will always be reminded of the negative things that we do.
- Say ' I am sorry' - able to humble ourselves down, showing empathy and love.
Lastly, nurturing a relationship takes time, takes personal effort and all the above mentioned - faithfulness, commitment, understanding one another and most importantly, with God's love.
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