We went for class as usual and all went well until the artwork segment. Teacher Russell and Teacher Wei were introducing the word 'coil'. The kids were required to paint the 'coil paper plate' and stick a little feather at the end of it. Before we could even finish painting, Ryann had got paint on his face, his clothes and hands. Thank God for non-toxic paint.
Ryann was able to match all the cards he was given without any guidance. Instead of always guiding him along, I leave him to explore on his own.
He is not talking much yet thus I try to refrain using the actions while doing the Zoophonics cards, hopefully it will encourage him to talk.
At night, Ryann started throwing tantrums. Cries at the slightest things. He was so attached to Tri that got me worried that next week when she goes back to Indo, how would he react? Even mum said that he is too attached to Tri already.
I was trying to comfort Ryann on one occasion. Ryann was in my arms while crying and Tri attempted to carry him away, which was stopped by me of cos. Not that I am trying to be rude or what, but I really do not want her to be the one giving the comfort. If I continue to allow this thing to happen, when she go back to Indo next week, the new maid will have a hard time handling Ryann and same goes to me too.
Really relying on God for these issues. Praying hard on that.
Sunday, 19 July 2009
18th July Positive parenting
Today, we had dinner at compass point when a lady who was sitting a distance away from our table caught my attention.
She was scolding her elder daughter who looks the most like 4 years old. That seems to be a common scene in any normal shopping mall but what she said shocked me. She was so loud saying in mandarin:” You don't have brains is it? Say so many times you don't understand! You no brains huh?"
That comment of hers hit me real hard. I will feel really hurt if I hear that from my mum. But at the same time I can understand how the mummy feels. Some times, the kids can really drive us to the wall. I started to recall how many times I have lost my cool over Ryann when he just simply doesn’t listen to instructions. Of cos I don't do that in public but now that I am standing outside the picture, I felt so hurt for the child.
This incident gave me a revelation. When we are angry, we got to really be tactful with our words. As parents, our words are extremely powerful. Words that we use can affect the self-esteem of the child greatly.
"A torn jacket is soon mended, but harsh words bruise the heart of a child." - Longfellow
This is totally true. Sometimes we cant help by saying things like "Why you so naughty today?" or "Naughty boy, no one loves a naughty boy.” We might just meant to discipline but those words might mean differently to a child.
Not long after, I hear that lady shout again:"你不要害我烫伤!" Repeatedly, I hear that for at least 4 times. "你不要害我!" may give the child the feeling that, whatever she does may cause harm to others.
Just to quote you an example. When I got my PSLE results, my mum wasn't very happy with my results and reprimanded me in front of my schoolmates. I could still remember I scored 1 A* 2 As and 1 B. But just because my elder sister got 4 As, she scolded me for not putting enough effort to get better results and she started comparing my sister's grades with mine. That was when I was 12 years old. Today, 16 years later now, I can still remember what she had said to me. And this is how much it had impacted my life.
This had taught me to be more tactful with my words when I am handling Ryann as what we say can really impact their mindset and their life. Loving environment is extremely important to nurture his unique set of special qualities. I believe all mummies will agree with me.
I wonder what will happen when Ryann grows up. I bet I will be like that mummy too, screaming at my top of the voice. Haha. Must start praying for patience. =D
She was scolding her elder daughter who looks the most like 4 years old. That seems to be a common scene in any normal shopping mall but what she said shocked me. She was so loud saying in mandarin:” You don't have brains is it? Say so many times you don't understand! You no brains huh?"
That comment of hers hit me real hard. I will feel really hurt if I hear that from my mum. But at the same time I can understand how the mummy feels. Some times, the kids can really drive us to the wall. I started to recall how many times I have lost my cool over Ryann when he just simply doesn’t listen to instructions. Of cos I don't do that in public but now that I am standing outside the picture, I felt so hurt for the child.
This incident gave me a revelation. When we are angry, we got to really be tactful with our words. As parents, our words are extremely powerful. Words that we use can affect the self-esteem of the child greatly.
"A torn jacket is soon mended, but harsh words bruise the heart of a child." - Longfellow
This is totally true. Sometimes we cant help by saying things like "Why you so naughty today?" or "Naughty boy, no one loves a naughty boy.” We might just meant to discipline but those words might mean differently to a child.
Not long after, I hear that lady shout again:"你不要害我烫伤!" Repeatedly, I hear that for at least 4 times. "你不要害我!" may give the child the feeling that, whatever she does may cause harm to others.
Just to quote you an example. When I got my PSLE results, my mum wasn't very happy with my results and reprimanded me in front of my schoolmates. I could still remember I scored 1 A* 2 As and 1 B. But just because my elder sister got 4 As, she scolded me for not putting enough effort to get better results and she started comparing my sister's grades with mine. That was when I was 12 years old. Today, 16 years later now, I can still remember what she had said to me. And this is how much it had impacted my life.
This had taught me to be more tactful with my words when I am handling Ryann as what we say can really impact their mindset and their life. Loving environment is extremely important to nurture his unique set of special qualities. I believe all mummies will agree with me.
I wonder what will happen when Ryann grows up. I bet I will be like that mummy too, screaming at my top of the voice. Haha. Must start praying for patience. =D
Saturday, 18 July 2009
17th July Tri going back home soon
Finally all the sleepless nights are over! Ryann is feeling much better now. Thank God for healing him and blessing him with great restful sleep. I saw immediate miracles of blessings and I am really thankful for that.
My new maid will be arriving next Tuesday. Tri will go back on Saturday. It is a pity cos I really thank God for her patience in taking care of Ryann. However, her season is over and I do not think she have the 'heart' to serve us anymore.
One thing I really learn is to try not to let your maid talk to other maids. They start comparing their salaries or welfare. They will start to request more things because their 'friends' got them, forgetting that those terms were agreed upon in their own contract.
We have always treated her with utmost respect of privacy. She has a room by herself. She can eat and cook all she wants. Things that she asked for, we give. Things that she need, we buy. We pay for her Pre-paid card every month. We pay her salary on time. We always agree to her request to advance her pay.
(Tri when Ryann is 6 mths old)
But how we ended our employment relationship was really not what I expected. A mixture of disappointment and uncertainty. Disappointed to hear what she said and ask for. Uncertain if we are able to find a new maid to be able to handle dad and the kids. But thank God for his blessings. We found a new maid. Not experienced but was the best among all we could find and she even pass her test on her first attempt. So I am trusting God that she is God's answer to my prayers.
Will update more on Tuesday. Praying hard. Hopefully Ryann can adapt to the new maid.
Wednesday, 15 July 2009
14th July Daily episode
I have been getting lots of 'no no no' from Ryann when it is medicine time.
I have been cleaning up and changing bed sheet for a couple of times when Ryann threw up his milk feed.
For many times, I will wake up in the middle of the night to check his temperature only to find his fever still there.
Irritating virus - Shoo Shoo
I want my happy cheerful baby back!
I have been cleaning up and changing bed sheet for a couple of times when Ryann threw up his milk feed.
For many times, I will wake up in the middle of the night to check his temperature only to find his fever still there.
Irritating virus - Shoo Shoo
I want my happy cheerful baby back!
Monday, 13 July 2009
13th July After a super long week
One week of road shows are almost killing me. Everyday, from morning till almost 11pm when I leave office, I was talking non-stop. No off days for me due to the road show. By the time I am home, Ryann was already asleep. You can imagine how tired am I. But this whole week was a week of super abounding grace from God to me. Very blessed week I had.
On Sunday night, Ryann had fever suddenly and coughing spells. We didn’t really sleep well last night, as he was really feeling very uncomfortable.
Brought him to Doc Tan this evening for Neb. Phew... This haze is getting irritating. But I am trusting God for his divine healing powers.
p/s: Ryann was flipping thru his number books and when he saw the number 8, he said 'eh', number 9, he said 'nine nine nine' (must say many times kind) and number 10, he said 'te te'. So glad to hear him talking finally. =p
On Sunday night, Ryann had fever suddenly and coughing spells. We didn’t really sleep well last night, as he was really feeling very uncomfortable.
Brought him to Doc Tan this evening for Neb. Phew... This haze is getting irritating. But I am trusting God for his divine healing powers.
p/s: Ryann was flipping thru his number books and when he saw the number 8, he said 'eh', number 9, he said 'nine nine nine' (must say many times kind) and number 10, he said 'te te'. So glad to hear him talking finally. =p
Wednesday, 8 July 2009
7th July Talentplus school visit
It had been 1 week since Mrs Koh left and till date I have yet to receive any updates from the school. Thus decided to pay them a visit today and send Ryann to school myself.
Ryann as usually was feeling so excited about school. Feel so glad to see him happily playing. Tried to speak to the new teachers there only to find out that it was the center manager who was doing relief there together with teacher Mary and another teacher Margaret who look more like my granny's age. There wouldn't be any permanent teacher until Aug.
Was quite disappointed with them that there wasn't any form of communication between the school and parents. At least we should be aware of what's going on? By August, all the disciplinary things that Mrs Koh taught would be all down the drain as kids enjoyed the relax month.
Personally, I stayed on to watch the way the center manager teaches the class. I wasn't impressed at all. But guess I can only try to hang on till Aug and speak to the new teacher again.
p/s: I saw le le offering Ryann a Lego block and Ryann shook his head to express himself. I am so glad. To some parents that might be just something very common and normal but to me, it meant a lot. At least I start to see him playing with other kids.
Hopefully he is enjoying himself in school.
By next year, I’ll most likely be changing his school to those with nursery so that he can continue all the way till kindergarten. Time to do some homework.
Ryann as usually was feeling so excited about school. Feel so glad to see him happily playing. Tried to speak to the new teachers there only to find out that it was the center manager who was doing relief there together with teacher Mary and another teacher Margaret who look more like my granny's age. There wouldn't be any permanent teacher until Aug.
Was quite disappointed with them that there wasn't any form of communication between the school and parents. At least we should be aware of what's going on? By August, all the disciplinary things that Mrs Koh taught would be all down the drain as kids enjoyed the relax month.
Personally, I stayed on to watch the way the center manager teaches the class. I wasn't impressed at all. But guess I can only try to hang on till Aug and speak to the new teacher again.
p/s: I saw le le offering Ryann a Lego block and Ryann shook his head to express himself. I am so glad. To some parents that might be just something very common and normal but to me, it meant a lot. At least I start to see him playing with other kids.
Hopefully he is enjoying himself in school.
By next year, I’ll most likely be changing his school to those with nursery so that he can continue all the way till kindergarten. Time to do some homework.
6th July No No No
Nowadays, Ryann will say 'no' to us. Although not very clear but he got the message across clearly.
We have been rejected numerous times whenever he refuses to listen to us. He will say 'no no no' and push us away. Phew. Terrible Twos prelude coming.
Whenever we switch off the DVD player, he will start stamping his feet on the floor like fast marching. I can imagine if one day we refuse to buy him the things that he wanted he would most likely just do that or even roll on the floor. Now I can totally understand why those parents would rather walk away and let them cry.
Nowadays, he will even switch on the DVD himself if he can’t get my attention.
God, please give me all the wisdom I need!
We have been rejected numerous times whenever he refuses to listen to us. He will say 'no no no' and push us away. Phew. Terrible Twos prelude coming.
Whenever we switch off the DVD player, he will start stamping his feet on the floor like fast marching. I can imagine if one day we refuse to buy him the things that he wanted he would most likely just do that or even roll on the floor. Now I can totally understand why those parents would rather walk away and let them cry.
Nowadays, he will even switch on the DVD himself if he can’t get my attention.
God, please give me all the wisdom I need!
5th July Ryann's class
Today was such a struggle. Almost couldn't make it for church and got to rush back to fetch Ryann for school. Phew. I am so glad I went for service. Feel so blessed after that.
We were slightly late today for class as it was raining outside. I always got to struggle every Sunday from home to church at suntec then back home fetch Ryann and back to suntec again for class. By the time class started, I am already very exhausted physically. Simply no energy to chase after Ryann. Today was much better as Teacher Russell is back.
As usual during songs segment, he went round high five with every one. Feel very happy that he starts to socialize though he is not talking yet. He understands the teachers at times. Example: when asked to sit down on the mat, he will sit down (for only 5 seconds la) then get up again. He still runs around the place during the zoo bag segment. I tried my best to distract him but it doesn’t work for him. We introduced alligator, apple, arrow and anchovies. He showed interest when the teachers were drawing an apple on their hands. When teacher Wei introduced arrow, we were asked to move towards the direction of the arrow and thus he enjoyed it too. I thought the word 'anchovies' is too much for them. I don't even use this word myself. We call them 'ikan bilies'.
Ryann managed to be able to pronounce the phonics sound of the letter 'F' together with the action as well. New achievement. Well-done Ryann. So far, he managed to learn 6 phonics sound and 15 letter actions from GUG. He recognizes all the A-Z and 1-20.
Today's project is to do a special fish tank. Ryann was asked to put 3 anchovies into the bag and 3 small pieces of seaweed. He put in some confetti as well. Teacher Wei will go round to pour the water, which was previously mixed with blue food coloring, and this is what we have got at the end of the day.
We were slightly late today for class as it was raining outside. I always got to struggle every Sunday from home to church at suntec then back home fetch Ryann and back to suntec again for class. By the time class started, I am already very exhausted physically. Simply no energy to chase after Ryann. Today was much better as Teacher Russell is back.
As usual during songs segment, he went round high five with every one. Feel very happy that he starts to socialize though he is not talking yet. He understands the teachers at times. Example: when asked to sit down on the mat, he will sit down (for only 5 seconds la) then get up again. He still runs around the place during the zoo bag segment. I tried my best to distract him but it doesn’t work for him. We introduced alligator, apple, arrow and anchovies. He showed interest when the teachers were drawing an apple on their hands. When teacher Wei introduced arrow, we were asked to move towards the direction of the arrow and thus he enjoyed it too. I thought the word 'anchovies' is too much for them. I don't even use this word myself. We call them 'ikan bilies'.
Ryann managed to be able to pronounce the phonics sound of the letter 'F' together with the action as well. New achievement. Well-done Ryann. So far, he managed to learn 6 phonics sound and 15 letter actions from GUG. He recognizes all the A-Z and 1-20.
Today's project is to do a special fish tank. Ryann was asked to put 3 anchovies into the bag and 3 small pieces of seaweed. He put in some confetti as well. Teacher Wei will go round to pour the water, which was previously mixed with blue food coloring, and this is what we have got at the end of the day.
Saturday, 4 July 2009
3rd July Cry baby Ryann
Kitchen is one of his favorite play areas. He loves the drawers there. He will open them up and start to play with those kitchen utensils such as roller etc. We will always have to drag him out of the kitchen.
First time, he was as usual trying to open all the cabinets and drawers in the kitchen. We tried to ask him to go out, he just ignore us. Then mum went to carry him up and he tried to struggle. I hit the table with the net (for scooping gold fish) against the table and sort of shocked him. He started to give me that 'going to cry' face and the 'du du' lips. Mum carried him out of the kitchen.
Second time, he ran to the kitchen again and started playing with the cabinets. I went in with that net and hit it against the table again. This time little dare devil was not afraid anymore. I held his hand and tried to get him out of the kitchen. I think he might be thinking that I would hit him. Soon, he started crying.
Cry baby! So smart, know how to use crying method.
Carried him up in my arms, he was still crying. The thing about Ryann's crying episodes are that he will shut his eyes tight and nothing you can do to distract him. But he can just stop instantly too. He stopped for a while and ran to daddy for help. After a little while, I called for him to come over which he did. Sitting on my lap, I asked him nicely why he is not listening to me? Before I could continue my question, he started crying again.
Dunno wan to laugh or be angry with him. But indeed his reactions were very funny la.
First time, he was as usual trying to open all the cabinets and drawers in the kitchen. We tried to ask him to go out, he just ignore us. Then mum went to carry him up and he tried to struggle. I hit the table with the net (for scooping gold fish) against the table and sort of shocked him. He started to give me that 'going to cry' face and the 'du du' lips. Mum carried him out of the kitchen.
Second time, he ran to the kitchen again and started playing with the cabinets. I went in with that net and hit it against the table again. This time little dare devil was not afraid anymore. I held his hand and tried to get him out of the kitchen. I think he might be thinking that I would hit him. Soon, he started crying.
Cry baby! So smart, know how to use crying method.
Carried him up in my arms, he was still crying. The thing about Ryann's crying episodes are that he will shut his eyes tight and nothing you can do to distract him. But he can just stop instantly too. He stopped for a while and ran to daddy for help. After a little while, I called for him to come over which he did. Sitting on my lap, I asked him nicely why he is not listening to me? Before I could continue my question, he started crying again.
Dunno wan to laugh or be angry with him. But indeed his reactions were very funny la.
Thursday, 2 July 2009
2nd July Running to the lift
Ryann love running around recently, especially running up and down the stairs or even running into the lift himself.
For 2 times today, Ryann will run into the lift himself without waiting for us. Mum was so worried the lift door may just close and lock him inside.
While walking home, Ryann as usual ran towards the lift, went in with us chasing behind and he even will press the number 4 himself and close the door. Should I be happy that he knew that his house is on the 4th floor? Or start thinking what if he presses the lift without waiting for us?
For 2 times today, Ryann will run into the lift himself without waiting for us. Mum was so worried the lift door may just close and lock him inside.
While walking home, Ryann as usual ran towards the lift, went in with us chasing behind and he even will press the number 4 himself and close the door. Should I be happy that he knew that his house is on the 4th floor? Or start thinking what if he presses the lift without waiting for us?
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